Sometimes when things are not going our way or we have an unexpected change in our life it is easy to feel deflated. But is that going to help matters? Probably not!
So here are 3 things you should avoid doing when your day seems a bit cloudy.
1) Beating Yourself Up – There’s enough negativity out there these days that it’s a full time job just to block external sources of pain…so why create another source internally? It’s hard to not go down the rabbit hole of listing all the reasons why we failed or how we could have done things better, but no one said these exercises are going to be easy! Even if you’re not a fan of hand writing, I recommend writing down your negative feelings when you have them, read them out loud and determine whether it’s in your control to change it or not. Please excuse the religious reference, but the Serenity Prayer is such good advice that anyone can benefit from it:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
2) Drinking Alcohol – Personally, I’ve never heard of anyone feeling better after drinking alcohol when they were in a bad mood. Alcohol is a known depressant and will only heighten your blues rather than reverse them. Instead, any one of these 10 mood-boosting “Happy Foods” is a better alternative – http://www.alive.com/food/10-happy-foods/
3) Solitude or Crowds (pick one): Some people like crowds and others love to be alone – whatever floats your bloat, avoid doing the opposite! If you’re someone who needs some alone time to simply pass your current mood, then avoid crowded situations or skip that birthday party if you can. On the flip side, if being alone generally makes you sad, then set up a group dinner with friends or family if you’re in a funk. It may seem a bit obvious but you’d be surprised how often we find ourselves in the exact situation that we don’t want to be without even realizing it. My tip is to realize it before it’s too late so you can choose!
When we are having a bad moment, so many of us turn that 10 minutes into a personal torture marathon that can last 10 hours. So instead of labeling the entire day as “bad” before it’s even over, try to focus on the bad moment that is causing you distress. The truth is, something that seemed intolerable a week or month or even year ago is nothing more than a memory now, not to mention all the other bad moments that you’ve actually forgotten.
From my coaching experience, a lot of people tend to live in the past, which means they’re not actually living. They’re in a perpetual day dream that’s preventing progress in their lives. Sometimes, all it takes is a small shift in perspective to change this mindset and see immediate gains.
If you want to talk about a recent “bad day” that you would like to discuss, don’t hesitate to schedule a call with me HERE!